Out of the Darkness

Last August I got to see Tony Robbins live. If you ever get the opportunity to see him, GO! His energy is AMAZING and if more people had the same energy, our world would be so much better.

One thing he said that struck me was that he was grateful for all of the abuse he suffered in his childhood because it made him the man he is today. It struck me because I can relate to that.

My traumatic experience involved the loss of my father. I absolutely would much rather my father be alive and well today. However, I am grateful for the lessons I have learned from going through that experience, developing PTSD and then finding my way to living with the disorder in a positive way....because this all made me the woman I am today.

Dark moments happen in life, but with every moment you have the opportunity to allow it to shape you or break you. You may not have a choice as to what happens to you, but you have a choice in how you allow it to affect you.

Why not allow an opportunity to be planted? Why not develop more roots? Why not grow and blossom?

It's not easy, but it's a much nicer way of dealing with the darkness.

Loving Yourself

I used to get so hung up over what other people thought of me. I'd ruminate on conversations and create stories in my head that likely weren't true. I had difficulties letting go of these thoughts.

The only thing this gave me was a lot of NOISE....and NOISE on top of PTSD is a combination that led me to think negatively and sabotage opportunities in my life.

Turning a negative mindset into a positive one is not as easy as flipping a light switch. It takes daily practice, sometimes even moment-to-moment practice. It take consistency. Even when you don't want to search for the positivity, it takes pushing through those moments and doing the do.

I've practiced this for a few years now, and I can unequivocally say that I have a positive mindset.

And that new mindset led me to letting go of what other people thought of me.

Because I have no space in my life for that kind of energy.

Cheers to that!

Thoughts

There are thoughts that are hard to control (flashbacks) and there are thoughts that we CAN control.

For instance....

An entire day is never a bad day. There may be moments that are difficult but there's always something GOOD in every day.

or....

A rejection from someone isn't a bad thing. It's actually a REDIRECTION to someone better for you.
or....

Having only a dollar in your wallet doesn't dictate your worth. YOU dictate your worth.
or....

A rainy day doesn't damped the mood. Rain provides us drinking water for us and the plants that nourish us.

The examples go on and on and on....